6 Week Encouraging Class Preliminary Training: Frame Of Mind And Attitude

Hello, Cynthia Ann Leighton here.

Welcome to the 6 Week Encouraging class: How to Encourage Yourself to Keep Moving Forward.

This is a preliminary session… a bonus!

Lesson 1 will arrive later this week by email to you at the email you used just now to login.

If you want your 6 weeks of lessons at another email, you will need to login using that email.

And a week from now lesson 2. Then 3 to 6 on a weekly basis… then a surprise.

Let’s start by listening, and move on by grabbing a pen and piece of paper so that you can begin to take action right away.

 

What’s here?

Welcome to Encouraging Class [11 minutes, 27 seconds]

This will show you what’s here in a welcoming orientation to the 6 Week Encouraging Class

 

How do I put myself in the right frame of mind?

Frame of mind [11 minutes, 29 seconds]

This will show you how to put yourself in the right frame of mind to encourage yourself to keep moving forward.

What does it take for me to get a truly helpful attitude?

Helpful attitude [21 minutes, 32 seconds]

This will show you how to position yourself for a truly helpful attitude.

 

What’s a good strategy for living?

Lighten up [10 minutes, 58 seconds]

This will show you how to apply gratitude in a way that’s attractive.

 

Homework assignment:

Step 1. Begin

You will need a piece of paper and a pen by your bedside this week.

As part of your planning, please pop that in place some time today.

 

In fact, if it’s possible to begin right now with a preliminary extra step, that’d help you by getting you started with the writing part.

What’s that preliminary step? Simply look around for a piece of paper and a pen.

If you can, grab that now. If not, then do it sometime between now and bedtime.

 

If it’s possible right now, taking a concrete, small action right now is a useful way to commit yourself to following through.

So if it’s possible, then take a piece of paper and draw a tiny little up arrow on the top left corner of the page.

 

Take a moment now to reflect on the past 24 hours. You can do the thinking part even if you don’t have the pen and paper now!

Consider the tiny events that have lifted you up in a positive way that encouraged you to keep moving forward.

Choose 1 to 3 of these small contributions to your last 24 hours of moving forward, and simply jot down a few words about each.

Jot them down to the right of the arrow.

 

Then, after those words, draw another tiny little arrow, but this time make it a down arrow.

Jot down a few words about one event that was not so positive, that maybe discouraged you or let you down.

Stop at one. Pick it randomly or pick it because it was the worst, but pick only one, and write only a handful of words.

Yes, you’ve got a whole page, however, we’re going to use the rest of the page for other things…

Step 2. Clear the deck and plan a time

For the next few days, I invite you to clear the deck a bit. If you commute by train, eat out or go walking during the day, you’ll be able to include this in that time slot!

Plan to make time to get out into the world in a slightly different way, with a new perspective.

Plan for when you can play with this!

As you plan, open your mind to the idea that you’re going to become a people watcher for a week.

 

 

Step 3: Playfully observe

During your chosen people watching times: playfully observe!

As you do, make a concerted effort to observe how positive and negative outlooks may seem to be reflected in the people around you.

Center yourself! Be playful inside. Allow yourself to notice what’s going on.

Respond within as you do. Quietly, inside, say to yourself, “That’s a curious way to respond!”

That’s a private observation; keep it within!

Notice how your perspective as an observer feels.

How can you do this? You might choose an activity that gets you in and among the people of your own community. Or you might do this at a neighborhood coffee shop one day, and at your favorite grocery store. Another day you might go early to your place of worship, before anyone else shows up, and then stay until you’re the last one leaving. Another day, you might pick a park, a lake, or the downtown main street where you often go and simply sit on a bench during a time you want to be reading a magazine or a book – do your reading and look about from time to time.

Schedule at least a little bit of this for each day this week. Yes, it’ll work if you simply choose times you know you’re going to be waiting before an appointment. Or other times you’re already around people!

The key is that you’re playfully observing people, what’s going on, and allowing yourself to note the curious ways people respond around you.

 

Step 4:  Positive and not so much

Pay attention to the expected and unexpected bright spots.

Allow yourself to reflect on how each lifts your spirits!

 

Step 5: Here’s the end of the day part

At the end of each day, including when you go to bed today, grab that same pen and paper.

Write down 1 to 3 tiny small events that you experienced which surprised you in an uplifting way, or that may have delighted you or given you comfort… basically choose 1 to 3 uplifting events.

I like to draw a little up-arrow on a line to remind myself of what I’m writing. Then, basically I write 25 words or less that’ll remind me of what I meant.

This is not intended to be a journal!

A handful of words will suffice.

Yup, literally 5’s good for each.

What if you only need one word to remind you? Use one word!

 

As you become a little bit more comfortable being a people watcher, you’ll naturally start to notice how getting stuck in any negatives seems to impact your feelings.

 

At the end of the day, when you write your 1 to 3 uplifting notes, pick 1 that sent you the other direction, either negative, emptiness, loneliness or whatever it may have been

 

I like to write this to the right of the uplifting stuff, pretty much on the same line (I keep it short!) and to put a little down-arrow to remind myself of what I’m writing.

Keep it simple!

The idea is to take out just one page for the week and put it next to where you sleep, along with a pen.

 

Write down just a few words for each of the three uplifting things you choose, and just a few for the one that’s not so much so.

Simply jot down enough to remind you what you meant so that at the end of the week you can look for patterns.

It’ll also help you fine tune what you need to do to encourage yourself to keep moving forward.

Step 6:  Reading

Read these:

 

How Gratitude Can Help When We Feel Too Busy | Kerry Howells, PhD

This will show you how to handle being too busy.

 

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do | Amy Morin, LCSW

This will show you how to get healthy habits that set you up for success in life.

 

Step 7: Watching

Allow yourself to work to see the upside!

Give yourself permission. Then? Watch these YouTubes:

 

You Have Unlimited Potential Inside – Zig Ziglar [2 minutes, 29 seconds]

This will show you that you can learn to be so that you can do and do so that you can have what you want.

 

The power of believing that you can improve | Carol Dweck, PhD [10 minutes, 24 seconds]

This will show you how to apply yourself effectively. Dr. Carol Dweck is a professor of psychology at Stanford University. Her research work in the field of motivation focuses on getting a growth mindset. For myself, I love the focus on process because this is what has worked for me my entire life.

 

Getting stuck in the negatives (and how to get unstuck) | Alison Ledgerwood, PhD | TEDxUCDavis [9 minutes, 59 seconds]

This will show you how to get unstuck from negative stuff. Dr. Alison Ledgerwood is a social psychologist. Her research has been funded by the National Science Foundation (USA). She calls herself “a professional people watcher.”

 

 

Additional Resources:

Get More of What Matters to You Into Your Life

You can catch up – How attitude leads to momentum

Action is My Answer! Because life is a process

How to get a success mindset – How do I put myself in the right frame of mind?

How to Start DOING Things

 

 

blessings,
Cynthia

About The Author

Cynthia Ann Leighton

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